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| Name: | Terri |
| E-mail address: | Terri.yuhas.92@gmail.com |
| Comments: | This site has given me hope in what feels like a hopeless situation. I tried the alanon program and although it works for some I felt like it was an excuse for staying stuck in a hopeless situation. The program offers a way out instead of a way to stay stuck. It's time to clear my head as I hear the incoherent alc in the background. It is a grim reminder of why I'm here and a slap in the face to remind me I need to here and find my way out. Life is too short. I found this site for a reason, I still have a life. Thanks for all you do. |
| Name: | Arista |
| E-mail address: | gothic_fairy_15@rock.com |
| Comments: | i've been with my bf for 10 years.Much like the woman's comment below me, things are getting bad quickly. i have an anxiety/panic disorder that makes all this worse. he gets drunk everynight and argues with me about everything, right down to a 30 min fight about the brand of dish detergent i bought. over the past year there have been a few incidents where we have gotten into full on fist fights, needless to say he's 6'1" and i'm 5'4" so i didn't fare to well. i'm a fighter don't get me wrong, but i can't handle this anymore. he's constantly verbally abusive to me. i've asked him to move out of my apt. and supposedly he's gonna, but it keeps getting pushed back. he was originally supposed to have left in jan 2009. and much like the guy 2 entries down i am in a nitemare. i'm scared all the time that if i do the wrong thing then it's gonna cause a disaster. i can't involve the cops like everyone i talk to tells me to. they don't understand the fear that goes along with living with an alcoholic |
| Name: | Denise |
| E-mail address: | dgebler@verizon.net |
| Comments: | I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS SEVERELY GOING SOUTH!!! My boyfriend is an alcoholic, we have a 2 year old son,he is not working,has lost 3 jobs in the past 2 years because of his drinking,and apparently, it's all my fault!It has gotten to the point, that I haave to lose a shift a week at my job, because he is too drunk to watch our son. I do not know where he d=gets tthe booze from, I can't let him have any money, not even 2 dollars or he will buy any kind of alcohol, it is almost midnight and he has been passed out on the couch off and on since 11a.m. I don't know what to do anymore, he promised to take care of myself and our son, and he can't even take care of our son while I take care of the household by working 60 hours a week. I didn't sign up for this, I might add that his drinking has caused him to be diagnosed with diabetes which he does no take his medication for, it is out of control in this house, and I hate every fiber of his being. It is to the point that I wish he would just get a hold of a gallon of liquor and do himself in . |
| Name: | McKenna Ryan |
| E-mail address: | mckenna964@gmail.com |
| Comments: | I am 11 months in with my partner of a horrible Bi Polar, Chronic Alcoholic relationship. I do no come from such a background and this is robbing me of my spirit. My soul aches. She is abusive verbally, you can never discuss anything with her, she lies consistently, is irresponsible, physically violent when drunk, combative, etc. I am in a nightmare. I've asked her 6 times to leave and she "straightens up and flies right", as she calls it.
I am now under Dr. care for severe depression, lost my friends, job, etc. I want to scream until someone hears me. I am 51, she is 46 and she is a train wreck. I have now found she is having online affairs with men or anyone that will praise her looks (she was a fashion model when younger and is still very beautiful, but she is broken) She has been in rehab 2x before me, has 5 DUI'S, her bi-polar is getting worse and she is having memory blackouts. I know I can't fix this..I want it to go away. She said she was leaving on Friday and lied about calling family out of state..she called a man she is having an online affair with..no plan ticket. He is local. I even said I would take her to the airport..and she blew up at me. She changed her story to not wanting to leave when I was finding out the truth yet she continues to lie every time her mouth is moving. Help me. I am so lost. I do not want to love someone like this, but she is very, very manipulative. Help me please |
| Name: | Price Shearn |
| E-mail address: | pricearizona@aol.com |
| Comments: | I commented on this website a couple years ago, and I would like to add something to that. My ex-wife and mother of my now grown children was an alcoholic during our marriage, and I suspect still is today (though not as severly, and supposedly in recovery). I read something in the 10 Step Program suggesting that alcoholics should, if truly in recovery, should go back to those they hurt and apologise for the terrible incidents and episodes they put their families through. Twenty years later I'm still waiting for that apology... |
| Name: | Lynda |
| E-mail address: | fennel@hereinreality.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://disabilityinfo.hostcell.net/index.html |
| Comments: | I included your encouraging, supportive site www.empoweredrecovery.com BTW I love the name of your site.
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| Name: | phyllis |
| E-mail address: | mtspadebit@yahoo.com |
| Comments: | My husband of 16 years has decided to leave as he needs to drink in private as much as he wants when he wants. He says now it is all about him and that he has no feelings for me or the granddaughter that we have raised for 14 years. He also made a lot of promises . I had never had a relationship with an alcoholic before so did not realize until to late. I really needed this book so as to understand how to deal with an alcoholics verbal abuse without trying to defend myself and tell him that thats not what I said or that this is what you said, etc. I do love him and am dependent on his income. He is retired Navy and his insurance pays for my medications. I am on disability and get $300 a month. Not enough to survive on. Without his insurance I will regress into the wheelchair. I have severe rheumatoid arthritis and the shots are not cheap. He gets upset with me as I dont have a job. I have broken my back 3 times and have several ruptured discs. I am able to perform normally for short times during the day but could not put in 8 hours, sitting or standing. He says it is all about him now . He is I believe at the onset of liver damage. This is the first site that has dealt with the non alcoholic. As I said , I wish that I could have found it sooner. |
| Name: | wilson |
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| Name: | Nancy D Adler |
| E-mail address: | nancy@GamblingOnLife.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://GamblingOnLife.com |
| Comments: | What an honor to have discovered your Empowered Recovery Site!
My name is Nancy Adler and I am blessed today to be a Life Transition Coach, Author and Radio Talk Show Hostess. Five and one-half years ago my life was quite different. I placed my last bet in a gambling casino on my only Daughters birthday after 13 years of gambling compulsively. Shortly after that I found myself living in a home for women and children who suffer from domestic violence/abuse. My marriage of 16 years did not survive my recovery. I loved my ex husband for most of my life, more than I loved myself (part of the problem). I am moved by your site most especially because my ex husband is an adult child of an alcoholic as I am and he is an alchoholic. As I write my forth book I am reminded that my recovery from gambling will be in the book, the topic of the book will be the relationships I choose. Thank you for your service! Blessings ~ Nancy D Adler www.GamblingOnLife.com, www.GamblingOnLife.podomatic.com nancy@GamblingOnLife.com |
| Name: | Nancy Adler |
| E-mail address: | nancy@GamblingOnLife.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://www.GamblingOnLife.com |
| Comments: | Thank you so much for empowering work you are doing! I was amazed when I discovered your podcast while reviewing my own. My name is Nancy and I am grateful and empowered in my own recovery from gambling addiction.
Shortly after placing my last bet over five years ago, I found myself living in a home for women that suffer from domestic violence/abuse. My marriage did not survive my life transformation from gambling. When it became apparent to me that I was unable to resolve our situation on my own, the first step I took was to put myself first and move on. I made a decision that day when I found myself living in that home for survivors, that when I got back on my feet I was going to give back. I am blessed and grateful to be working as a Coach offering courage, self-respect and spiritual support to my clients in their personal and professional lives. Blessings ~ Nancy |
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| E-mail address: | fennel@maximumedge.com |
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| Name: | andrew |
| E-mail address: | andrewsymonds19@yahoo.com |
| Homepage URL: | http:// http://www.alcoholabusecenter.com |
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| E-mail address: | inday@work-at-home-parents.org |
| Homepage URL: | http:// http://www.treatmentcenters.org |
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| E-mail address: | clubvikram@clubvikram.in |
| Homepage URL: | http://www.alcoholaddiction.org |
| Comments: | a great platform to help people who are suffering or has somebody in the family suffering from an addiction. wish there are more people and resources to help addicts.
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| Name: | ANTHANETTE HARPER |
| E-mail address: | BLESSME0620@AOLCOM |
| Comments: | CAN YOU PLEASE SEND ME THE FREE BOOK BECAUSE OF WHAT IVE BEEN THROUGH IN MY MARRIAGE AND I NEED TO BE EMPOWERED AFTER THE SEPARATION OF BEING MARRIED FOR 18 YEARS.
THANK YOU, ANTHANETTE HARPER |
| Name: | Theresa |
| E-mail address: | domenicsmum@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Hello,
I received you book in June this year (2007) and have just finished reading it. I would like to thank you for all of the advice, but more importantly for me, the validation that what I was going through was not "all in my head" and that it was not ALL my fault. I learned that trying to change my boyfriend's drinking was not going to work nor was it my place to do so. I also learned that some of my behaviours may have made my situation worse, but that it is not an abnormal thing to happen in an alcoholic relationship. I am now a few days out of my alcoholic relationship and I am working very hard to put my life back together again. I have not had contact of any type with my ex for almost a week now. Every day is a challange not to call to see how he's doing and to make sure he is not contemplating suiside (again). When things get really tough I open your book and read a few pages, talk to a friend or try to busy myself with things that I can take charge of. It seems as though accomplishing an unfinished task works well with me. Even though I am strong, I have one problem I can not seem to work through. All my belongings are still in the house (I left the house). I don't know how I am going to be strong enough to go get my belongings. I have friends that will come with me, but I still think it will be a few steps back emotionally and I don't want to go there. Is there anyone that has any suggestions? Thank you so much for all of your words of encouragement. We are strong!!! We shall prevail!!! Theresa ------------------- Hi Theresa, I tried to email you this, but your email address is incorrect. I don't know if you'll see this or not, but thank you for your nice comments! As far as your question about getting your belongings, you have a couple of choices: 1. You can not ever get them and chock it up to experience. 2. You can get them immediately. 3. You can get them later. If you decide to get them, then remember my Now or Later Rule: You can take care of it now and get it behind you, or you can suffer longer, grow stronger, and experience any potential set back later. If you have things there you want to get, then grab a friend and go get them, preferably when he is not there. You may also want to join the discussion forum. The link is on the main website. I hope this helps. Keep up the great work! Doug |
| Name: | jean |
| E-mail address: | jconant@interstateappraisal.com |
| Comments: | hi i have read your book and found it amazing, i am out of the relationship, but not sure where to go from here, i still love him and miss him, in my case though he is in recovery and has been for 5yrs he just this year made his 1yr medalion(slips 1-2 a yr). but i think he's a dry drunk still dysfunctional. i still think maybe someday we can get back together, we still talk he loves me would do anything for me, jerk says so much but then actions show me different i am confused we have been apart 31/2 m and after 2m he married a woman he started to date 2 days after he left (i know he was talking to her before and she is a big part of why he left) still am stupid enough to think these are just learning lessons god has planned for us to get us to the point were we can have a healty relationship in the future no one else agrees w/me, they say run. i can't seem to fully let go HELP!!!!! where do i go from here, i have been reading so much an have become way healthier started to create and enforce boundaries, i just loved your book i had no idea about so much stuff especially feeling and how to deal with them. i was never taught, i am the family hero, miss fix it. never take care of me just everyone else, i am changing that, learning much about me, i just don't know what my next step is or where to go from here i am lost any advice??
--------- Hi Jean, Yes, join the discussion forum. The link is on the main website. You'll get advice there. |
| Name: | Linda |
| E-mail address: | WestieLC@aol.com |
| Comments: | You and your book saved my life and helped me to realize the truth that AL-NON could not...Only I can take back my life and only I can to decide to live or sit and watch myself waste away. Thank you Linda |
| Name: | Price Shearn |
| E-mail address: | pricearizona@aol.com |
| Comments: | I can't tell you how uplifting it is to hear I'm not alone. My ex-wife (the mother of my two grown children) was, and I think still is, an alcoholic who is still in denial and still drinking. I left her when I couldn't get any help or even acknowledgement of the problem by her family, whom we lived by. They had, and still do, have the "ostrich syndrome" (stick your head in the ground and maybe the problem will just go away). Well, it didn't, and it doesn't. I tried to get legal custody of my kids but she could put on such a good front (sober) I didn't prevail. Anyway, thankfully I am married to a terrific woman and life now is better than I could have even dreamed. I pray for those (both men and woman) who are currently enduring a relationship with an addict - it's more than anyone should have to experience.
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| Name: | Sue |
| E-mail address: | eggertfam@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Thank you to you both for this information. Without it I was lost and floundering in a sea of information for the alcoholic and abuser. I have been reading and re-reading your book and learning from this information for about a year. I have passed the information on to a few others who will also benefit. You literally saved my life with this information. |
| Name: | Anna |
| Comments: | Doug and Tracy,
I want to thank you for this wonderful website. Today is November 7, 2006. I registered on the webiste on November 29, 2005. Without it, I would have not found the support and courage from others in similar situations. I finally found the courage to get out after the pain became to much to bare. I am taking it day by day, but it is soooooo much better without the daily pain and angst. Thank you, Anna |
| Name: | kay pearce |
| E-mail address: | kaypearce@sunet.com.au |
| Comments: | Today is my 23rd wedding anniversary. I am now only fully realising that my marriage has been a codependant one. My husband is an alcoholic with depression. We live an emotional nightmare of broken promises and emotional guilt baggage. I am wanting to break free but feel trapped by lack of financial independance and wanting to protect my children from the inevitable pain that will follow. The problem is that my husband is a good father when he's not drinking - he also works hard to support us. But he is damaged and incapable of seeing any joy in life - he blame others for all his problems and refuses to commit to change. How can I break free? |
| Name: | Kadi Flynn |
| E-mail address: | kadi@sti.net |
| Comments: | The information here is so clear and informative. I am just now, at age 53, realizing I am a codependent. Learning what I must change to live a healthy life is a very scary thought. I am feeling certain I must let go of my present relationship start over, again! |
| Name: | mojo |
| E-mail address: | mec618@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | I have learned so much from this site. I started dating a guy that I also thought was "too good to be true." We really do get along great, but I knew that in his past he had lost his business and family due to alcoholism. When I met him he told me he had been sober for 4 years. That turned out to be the first of many lies as 9 months into our relationship he started drinking again and doing drugs. He kept lying about it so much that I thought I was going crazy. He already has had his driver's license revoked for life due to prior DUI's so during this time I was driving him everywhere besides working full time. After reading from Empowered Recovery, I kicked him out but he still calls me every day or stops by my house for any crazy reason he can think of. He's called all my friends telling them how much he loves me and wants me back. I now have to be really strong because I am a true "martyr" who will put my own feelings last not to hurt someone else's and then it makes me sick that I'm not strong when it comes to protecting myself. I have gotten rid of him physically, I just want emotional freedom! |
| Name: | DeDe Miller |
| E-mail address: | korrmeister@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | To say thank you is a definite understatement to ER. I feel that for the first time in my life, I can actually breathe. I am an adult child of an alcoholic that has painfully tried to rewrite a past I couldnt stop from happening. I believed that I could save whomever was the new addict, to address not saving my parent in the past.
I realized with your help the best way to save someone on a path to self destruction is to exercise first the right to save myself. I don't have to accept Alcoholic behavior, as my norm, my responsibility as a non alcoholic. Now as I have made a choice, I realize so have they. This acceptance, this admission is so freeing, clarifying and enlightening, its as if the gift of sight became mine for the the first time in 40years. This is truly undescribeable. Thank you. ddm |
| Name: | Audrey B. |
| E-mail address: | jeepbaby95@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Thank You so much for this site! I ran across it about 3 weeks ago. I have learned so much. It's nice to know, that someone else out there, knows exactly how I'm feeling. I've been married to my husband the alcoholic for 25 yrs., and after reading your book, I realize , that I can't change him. I can't make him stop drinking. And that it's his choice to drink. It's time (way overdue) to get out of this relationship. I'm now waiting (not to long) for the right time to bring up, that I want out. I now see that nothing is going to change. And that all these years, our troubles always come back to the drinking. He says , that he'll stop and does so, for a couple of weeks, but then its right back to the same thing. And I'm tired of it. Today is my 46 Birthday and I'm ready for change! A GOOD CHANGE! in my life. I'm so glad, that I read your book, its given me some strength and I've done alot of thinking, and I know that I'm tired of his drinking, I'm tired of the name calling, I'm tired of feeling mad all the time,I'm tired of worrying about him driving home drunk, and being in an accident, I'm tired of him spending alot of his paycheck on beer first and bills second, I could go on with more, but I'll stop there. I've looked at my life, 5-10 yrs. down the road, and I don't like what I see!, the same stuff thats wrong now and not changed will all be the same then. And no I don't like it. So I know, its time for me to have Peace in my life and find some happiness. I feel like being selfish, (I guess you could say)I just want to take care of myself, for a change. Agsin, Thank You for your book.
Audrey B. |
| Name: | Denise |
| E-mail address: | deniselieb20032003@yahoo.com |
| Comments: | I found this site two days after I kicked out my alcoholic boyfriend. It has been a rough road, but after reading your e-book I have found the strenght to cut off all communication.
The resembalence of the stories I read to my ex relationship is uncanny. Thank you for providing the most helpful info on surviving the alcoholic relationship I have ever read. I feel I can truly move on in my new life!!!!!!!!! |
| Name: | Jerry Sullivan |
| E-mail address: | gsullivan2b@aol.com |
| Comments: | Sir:
At last, some common sense sanity. AA and Al-Anon are frauds and extremely harmful cults. If not for free will and personal responsibity, humans are no more than cabbages. Thanks. |
| Name: | Paul |
| E-mail address: | john_cox942@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | i am currently helping my brother who is an alcoholic, doctor has told him his liver is stuffed, totally, but he cant stop drinking and the dryout centre/rehab, are all full and too much of a waiting list.
So i am doing it myself with herbal tea, anxiety pills, etc and i will just try keep him busy. If anybody can help me with any further information or other ways of helping him please feel free to email me with any suggestion, emasil address is john_cox942@hotmail.com thank you and i will very much so appreciate any further help or support that i can get. thank you all Paul |
| Name: | Linda |
| E-mail address: | camillilj@hotmail.co.uk |
| Comments: | You have confirmed my fears and dreams in one visit. Thank you for the reality. Linda x |
| Name: | Anne |
| E-mail address: | muderfer@yahoo.com |
| Comments: | Hi! I'm new at this. I really like what I've read so far. I have tried Alanon and councling and Domestic Violence services and have recieved more insight in just two days on this sight, thank you. |
| Name: | Regina |
| E-mail address: | amishchic@hotmmail.com |
| Comments: | I have been reading the posts daily, your site has helped me very much understand the A and myself. I also attend counceling and have told my therapist about this site. Again I must thank you for the help I haave received just reading that I am not alone. I have read many many books and yours is the best on this subject. I am no longer a co dependent. The A can do as he pleases and I can do what makes me happy. I feel so much better in the past month after signing up on empowwered recovery. |
| Name: | Lynn from Toronto Canada |
| E-mail address: | lynnsherwin215@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Found this site using a Google search, ' alcoholic relationships"
(after not finding the answers I needed from Al-Anon, ) I am fifty this year, with four long term alcoholic relationships behind me, one of them, the first, produced a son. I would average three years per relationship, sense a problem and move on, painfully so, and (sigh) hook up with yet another alcoholic. Couldn't seem to break the cycle, grew up with alcoholism in the family, maternal side, and have learned to be very codependant. I have found this site to be very informative, has answered many of my questions, and uncovered many of my fears , which has given me hope, to change the course of my life. Am in the middle of breaking things off with my latest three year relationship, which started out larger than life, 'to good to be true'. and it was, too good to be true. Red flags showed early, which i chose to deny, and rationalize, abuse escalated, nothing physical, since my brother is in the police force, (the drinker told me, that's why he didn't hit me) Verbal, emotiaonl abuse, sexual, abuse, being held hostage, controlled , brain washed, every thing was there. all of the signs of more danger ahead. I remember having days where I would think well, maybe it won't be so bad to give up my freedom card, for the (false) sense of security I had with this man. I was angry alot, but didn't know why, depressed, and worn out to the point of collapse. I sought help everywhere, I did in fact collapse, last summer, which was the start of my decision to leave, go back, leave, go back, Am doing better at staying away these days. He still calls and it's wearing me down, I don't answer, and have turned the call answer service off, I am hanging on by the skin of my teeth. (not calling) I know , that to call him will start the dance all over again. That's why I am here, to learn, learn, learn. I have tried Al-ANon, but, for ages couldn't get past the fact that Al-anon is patterned after AA, and ,the 'moronic' phrase, "keep Coming Back" to any of my questions irritated me to no end. Keep Coming Back, hearing the same stories over and over, sometimes new ones, leaving the meettings feeling more upset than ever. and feeling sorry for the Drinker, Sorry, I am tired and rambling, I am hanging on, trying so hard to keep denial at bay, past the pain of the loss, more or less, since things were, becoming so hard, and so, sick. Imagine being called over for week-ends, of couch sitting , sexual aggression, and house work, all in the name of 'love', then being told you and your family are all eff ups, and this girl and that at the bar want him, even having young girls my sons age phoning him and he, in turn lie to me about it. To my face. Things like this, started the beginning of the end. He promised the moon, and gave me alot of heart ache, Mentioned Marriage, etc. talked of many great things, but, nothing came to pass, all my fault he would say, all my fault. ( I used to believe him too, till I got smart, and broke out of my isolation) Any way, this is so looong, I have alot to learn alot I need and want to learn, to progress, and to live a healthy peace filled life. On that note, I shall sign off, Thank you Tracey and Doug, for all of your hard work in bringing a site that is educational into fruition. Lynn in Toronto Canada. |
| Name: | Cheryl "Charley" |
| E-mail address: | chermar0012@yahoo.com |
| Comments: | I have been searching for a solution - Ive tried the "try to fix" for the last 2 years. So rapidly, everything was falling apart. I found it here, I cant thank you enough. I feel like Im now in a ray of hope - I feel so good about myself. Me and my children are at a fresh start, a new beginning, a new life. I must also admit, That moment in my life was a life lesson. I continue to watch my future steps and walk away from co-depenancy. I Thank you again. We all, including you, have been blessed. |
| Name: | Levetta |
| E-mail address: | taylor4087@bellsouth.net |
| Name: | John Garofalo |
| E-mail address: | jgarofalj@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | I am single dad with custody of two teen boys.... My wife or I should say soon to be x is a alcoholic drug addict.... I now starting to realize the frredom I now have away from the abusive addictions world.... Me and the children feel a much calmer, more stable atmosphere... I loved my wife deeply but her condition worsen over the years.... She now lives with the town drunk.... She completly gave up on seeing her children... I have tried to to make it as normal as possible for the boy's but sometimes the burden can be overwhelming... for the most part the children have adapted... Life is full of many test... I do not hate the addict, she carries a lot of guilt and anger... I know she does not intentionally direct it toward my but I for sure have become her punching bag.... Truth is I just laugh at it now..... Its a shame that lives so easly could end by a simple substance that is placed into ones body..... I chose to remeber my wife the way she was before her addiction took control of her, my son's look at their mom the same way..... I also look at the addict as the walking dead, hope my kids do not see their mom that way !!! I think everyone on this site knows what I mean when I say that the transformation of the addict is so unreal, so hurtful that words can not fully describe the feeling, the lose...... I know there is a reason for all, I know there is a master plan to why families are ask to sacrifice so much.... Thanks for the site |
| Name: | Lynda Appell |
| E-mail address: | fennel@groovynet.every1.net |
| Homepage URL: | http://mayapple.ms11.net |
| Comments: | I submitted a request for a reciprocal linking. If you like I can add your site www.empoweredrecovery.com to the addictions page of my site. http://mayapple.ms11.net/addict.htm.
My site like yours, is comprehensive, caring. Title of my site is "DisABILITY Info" I am a disabled disability activist near Phila,PA. |
| Name: | Angela Clark |
| E-mail address: | psychmaj30@msn.com |
| Comments: | I am so greatful that I found this website. I now realize that there are other people just like me in a alcoholic relationship. I want to leave so bad but my finances won't let me. I have been in an alcoholic relationship for the last past 16 years. I am soooooooo! sick and tired of his lies, broken promises, and never ending changes. His drinking has changed my life so. I am not myself anymore. I feel like I am a hostage sometimes in this situation with no way out. I care for him, but I am no longer in love with him. He has permenantly changed that. I do not trust him at all. I know that there has to be more to life than this. I have never been to hell, but this life seems like I am not far from it. It seems like this is a curse, or omen over my family. He refuses to get him, calls in to work making up lies without thinking about providing for me and the kids. I hate my life right now and I want to live and be happy again. I wish everyone here the best of luck and many blessings alcoholic or non-alcoholic MAY GOD BE WITH US ALL! |
| Name: | Linda |
| E-mail address: | Camillilj@aol.com |
| Comments: | You switched the light on for me and now I can see clearly, thank you. x |
| Name: | Cyndy |
| E-mail address: | cyndyc_60@msn.com |
| Comments: | I stumbled upon this site, and started crying ..I have been in an alcoholic relationship for the last 3 years, married 2.. I for such a long time blamed myself, for his fits of anger, starting to believe his comments and put downs. I became weaker, less confident, nervous all the time, and my old happy self was gone. I am trying to pull myself together, and plan my "new" future. Its is very difficult, since he has been nice, apologizing, and trying to make it better. I know it won't last, and it is the usual broken promises.. I hope to completely be able to be the strong woman I used to be and make the right decisions |