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| Name: | David |
| E-mail address: | david929@comcast.net |
| Comments: | I read your articles and sent a separate e-mail. Being controlled wuld be highly satisfying. |
| Name: | Ellen |
| Comments: | Your ideas regarding having the man swallow his ejaculate have been very useful. My boyfriend was quite reluctant to even try this at first, until I made the punishment so large that he had to try. Now it is a regular, required thing. I like to have him go slow and often photograph the proceeding. I've played with the lighting and have some beautiful images of my boy as the ejaculate drips down his mouth and onto his fingers. Occasionally I will have him consume it from a special place, such as my nipples or bottom. Thank you for the advice. |
| Name: | Max |
| E-mail address: | dompupil@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Thank you for a wonderful site.My dream would be to be allowed to receive remote chastity treatment. |
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| Name: | Miss Charlie |
| Comments: | I like this site very much. I agree with Rika that complete chastity for the male is a less useful way to go. My boyfriend gets relief every three weeks or so, but he never knows when it will be. Sometimes I do hours of foreplay with him, and then tell him to get dressed. I've also had him drop his pants on the spot and masturbate and had him climax in two minutes, and that's his relief for another three weeks. The goal is to have him always wanting, desiring, frustrated, never completely fulfilled, always yearning for more than he's getting. He is so sweet and needful, and thankful when he's allowed some brief pleasure. Sometimes I take him right to the edge where he thinks he's about to lose it, but I know his limits and he knows that I would never take him beyond what he could stand. I've taken to recording the events lately, and we look at them together later on and talk about how he was feeling and what he was thinking about. The more I know about his body and its reponses, the better. |
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| Name: | Traci |
| E-mail address: | jezob@aol.com |
| Comments: | I love the site and am starting a new amazing journey with a man who lives for being teased and denied... Too bad "Normal Guy" didn't have the balls to leave his contact information!!! ;) If he only knew the joy that could be found in his submission to a Dominant Woman.
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| Name: | Laura |
| Comments: | Rika, thank you for your site, it's very informative. I wanted to relate a story I thought you and your readers may appreciate. One day during the recent Olympics I found my boyfriend watching an event very intently on his new plasma TV. When I came in the room he tried to switch channels but I told him to put it back on the Olympics, and sure enough he had been watching a women's beach volleyball game. He was a little chagrined and then I noticed that he had an erection through his shorts, which made him even more chagrined. At that point I asked him to remove his shorts and underwear, and we watched the rest of the match together on the couch while I lightly stroked his genitals. We had an excellent discussion about what he found arousing about the women, what they were wearing, who he liked best, and so on. The match ended about 20 minutes later, and then I had him join me in the bedroom. We continued the discussion while I lightly tickled his by-now full erection with a feather that I keep by my bedside. I learned all sorts of new things about his preferences and desires for over an hour before ending the discussion and having him get dressed. Possibly some of your readers have also found this kind of session very useful in getting to know their men better. |
| Name: | David |
| E-mail address: | vondarkmoor@comcast.net |
| Comments: | Very informative website, i have been looking for this for a while, i have read about half of the articles so far but unfortunatley work takes me away. I look forward to reading more and possibly taking a look at your book. Thank you for placing the site on the web, you have been very helpful. |
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| Name: | Normal Guy |
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| Name: | Rebecca |
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| Name: | Madame Lisa |
| E-mail address: | madame@madame-says.net |
| Homepage URL: | http://madame-says.net |
| Comments: | Thank you for your wonderful articles Rika. I have always felt the same way about True Submission and I have a question for you, but I will email it elsewhere.
I look forward to reading your book! Madame L |
| Name: | Noreen |
| Comments: | This is a remarkable site and I just came across it recently. For those who use chastity devices, one thing I've established with my boyfriend is the idea of a "relief day." Once every four weeks, I let him out of his chastity device for 12 hours, and he can masturbate to his heart's content, as long as I'm there to observe. This seems to
make the chastity regimen easier for him to handle. Obviously we don't go out or do much that day. He usually reaches four climaxes or so before I put him back in the device. He sleeps very soundly and I wait a few days before resuming any tease-and-deny activities. |
| Name: | Rah37 |
| E-mail address: | rah37@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | I'll happily give you my real name but not for everyone to see at this time. Thank you for letting me look at your wisdom. |
| Name: | Grig |
| E-mail address: | azakur@km.ru |
| Name: | sissygirl |
| E-mail address: | submaidmale007@yahoo.com |
| Comments: | Hello,i havnt read anything yet,but it looks like a good site.i was sent here by GoddezzT.i plan to read the site and be a better sissymaid. |
| Name: | Irida |
| Comments: | This lifestyle is a learning experience, you have to adjust
as you go along. Recently my boyfriend and I agreed to have him placed in a chastity device, due to his longstanding masturbation problem. He was reluctant but we both realized we needed to take this step. The device involved a piercing, which he was particularly concerned about, but the woman who did the work was very professional and installed the device in about 10 - 12 minutes, while I held my boyfriend in my arms. (Ironically, I needed to get him erect briefly so that she could pierce him correctly.) We went home and he went to bed for several hours, but by the next day he was adjusting to his new situation. I would recommend this approach to anyone who is dealing with the masturbation issue, as a possible solution. |
| Name: | Chuck |
| E-mail address: | vocatus@bigfoot.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://humankindnessalways.blogspot.com/ |
| Comments: | Ms Rika,
You are absolutely right about female led relationships and feel that unless the world is destroyed by nuclear holocaust more and more relationships will be that way in the future. Women are naturally dominant, but so many have been brainwashed by the male dominated system to believe it's not ladylike to be dominant. Gradually the old patriarchy is becoming obsolete, giving way to a new gynarchy. |
| Name: | Chuck |
| E-mail address: | vocatus@bigfoot.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://humankindnessalways.blogspot.com/ |
| Comments: | Ms Rika,
You are absolutely right about female led relationships and feel that unless the world is destroyed by nuclear holocaust more and more relationships will be that way in the future. Women are naturally dominant, but so many have been brainwashed by the male dominated system to believe it's not ladylike to be dominant. Gradually the old patriarchy is becoming obsolete, giving way to a new gynarchy. |
| Name: | Mr B |
| E-mail address: | bttrfly6@gmail.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://bttrflysix.blogspot.com/ |
| Comments: | Ms Rika,
The wisdom of your words helps me understand why I am submissive to women. Dominant women have found me all through the course of my life. They seem to know my nature. Thank you for helping me and other understand just a little more. B |
| Name: | joseph |
| E-mail address: | jaspersbone@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | thank You for the wonerful articals and sharing You time on here on the things i totally adore have a blessed endevor
joseph |
| Name: | Sweat Shop Sissy |
| E-mail address: | sweatshopsissy@gmail.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com |
| Comments: | Dear Ms. Rika;
I enjoyed your interview with Tom Allen and your book is on our wish list. I have a short post on my blog about you. We'd be flattered if you stopped by and said 'hello'. http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com/2008/02/24/true-submission/ Cheers, sss |
| Name: | Ellen J. |
| Comments: | Rika, I wanted to say thank you for this wonderful site. I'm 23 and have been using many of your ideas in my relationship with my boyfriend. Most of all, limiting his orgasms has really made things special. He now focuses on my pleasure and I've never been more sexually satisfied and fulfilled. For him, we've found that one release per month is about right, with some teasing and sensual sessions in between. When he gets his chance, I dress up in sexy lingerie and spend awhile kissing and caressing, letting him enjoy my body. When the time is right, I slip out of the lingerie, get him a big jar of Vaseline and a towel, and let him masturbate. I love it that he has to jerk off like a 13-year-old while a nude woman is sitting a few feet away. Like you say, the joy of irony! He "sings" so sweetly when he finally climaxes. When he's done, we cuddle some more and he begins his wait for the next time. Thank you again, Rika. |
| Name: | new2ideas |
| E-mail address: | ksweeden65@yahoo.com |
| Comments: | I am very new to the use of submissiveness your articles are very informative, It is nice to have someone with your experience helping those of us who aren't very knowledgeable at this point. |
| Name: | Rachele M. |
| Comments: | Rika, I admire your site and was particularly interested in the section in your Forum regarding males swallowing their own ejaculate. This was a new concept to me but one I was eager to introduce in my relationship with my boyfriend. As expected, he was very reluctant, almost to the point of refusal, but when I told him he would be facing an extended
period of chastity, he agreed. It seems to work better for us if we make a small ceremony out of it, with a special ceramic dish that we use only for this purpose. He shows me its contents and then I hold the dish for him while he swallows it down. We've been doing this for several months and while he he does not enjoy it, I think it reinforces his submission in a healthy way. |
| Name: | realistic approach - huh |
| E-mail address: | williesnoodle@aol.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://get-a-grip.com |
| Comments: | You have an overly lazy philosophical approach that won't last without active consent, approval and agreement with the "sub." Maybe if you "paid" better the odds would improve for a long(er)lasting scenario, but your best you should hope for is an occasional fun "scene" where you get to be on top. Put some active effort into your desires and you'll get paid in spades. Lovingly, williesnoodle |
| Name: | Lady Melissa |
| E-mail address: | melissa@dshaven.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://dshaven.com |
| Comments: | It's wonderful to read a common sense approach to this lifestyle. The Internet has become a double edged sword that I fear has done more harm than it has done good. I'm exhausted with the number of "slaves" asking me, what am I going to do for them?
Thank you for your efforts, Melissa Mistress of Ds Haven |
| Name: | Webmaster |
| E-mail address: | webmaster@everydayslaves.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://www.everydayslaves.com |
| Comments: | As a fetish enthusiast and one who documents real 24/7 DS relationships, this site has been a great experience for me! |
| Name: | slaveduties |
| E-mail address: | edsmontreal@hotmail.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://www.slaveduties.com |
| Comments: | wonderful site :) thank you! |
| Name: | slave ron |
| E-mail address: | MrsClaudia@MrsClaudia.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://MrsClaudia.com |
| Comments: | Hello Mrs. Rika, I am a collared slave to my wife of 13 years. We are a 24/7 life style couple for just over a year. All though we have been in and out of the scene for over 10. I just wanted to say hello and thank you for your help. I am under instruction from Mrs. Claudia go to your site daily with diferent things to lean and acomplish each day. We have found your info invaluable and look forward to learning more each day. My goal is o become the best slave for Mrs. Claudia in the ways she wishes me to be.
Thanks again, slave ron |
| Name: | antoni |
| E-mail address: | slaveantoni@mygamma.com |
| Comments: | Mistress.Your perception of the submissive has a joy in it that is,as You say,usually absent in writings about the male creature's function.Recently Caroline,a friend of ours,bought a holiday house near us in France.Knowing that i appreciate doing as i am told She has started using me as the houseboy to look after the house,prepare it for Her arrival and do the laundry and clean after Her departure.She says that serviles should not be whipped,it gives them too much pleasure.i have never felt so fulfilled since Her starting to use me in this way and derive new satisfaction from my duties at home. |
| Name: | Steve |
| Comments: | Dear Mistress Rika,
Thank you for having your site out there for us. It is very hard to find good quality information on all the subjects you cover. Needless to say I wouldn’t be here signing your guest book if I weren’t intrigued but the subject matter. It is a huge turn on for me… Once again, thank you. Steve |
| Name: | Anon |
| Comments: | Rika, I was going to read through all of your wonderful advice before thanking you but I am overwhelmed by the quality of what you have so kindly offered. I see many of the mistakes that I have made described here and it is great to learn about how to put it right. Visited many such sites and learned some useful information but it is all here, and much more. I hope to work up the courage to share this potentially wonderful experience with my wife. Now, I am going back to reading ALL of your advice. I cannot thank you enough. |
| Name: | arjan |
| E-mail address: | ten_dienste_van_u@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Dear Ms Rika,
Thank You for this unique site, which offers lots of information, and at least as important: a platform for like-minded people. What strikes me in particular is the sensible, non-sensational, non-'kinky' way in which the subject of LFA / FemDom is explained, studied and advocates. I live in Holland - Amsterdam. And although we have the reputation in Holland that we are very tolerant, also about expressing sexuality etc in public, there seems not to be much interest in LFA. Probably due to our 'ideology' of equality of the sexes, which seems to forbid serious discussion about LFA / FemDom. Therefore; I'll visit Your site more often to read the proceedings / development of this wonderful development in M-F relationships! |
| Name: | Vicki |
| Comments: | Rika, your site has been very instructional as I've grown into this lifestyle (femdom). One thing I might recommend to others who are new to this is to find a friend or friends who have some experience and can offer advice. I gradually moved into a dominant role with my boyfriend about two years ago. It did not go especially well at first and I was not sure how to make it work better. By chance I met another woman who was also into female dominance and also happened to be a registered nurse. She was able to give me some great advice about the effects of orgasm denial, and suggested that I reduce my boyfriend's sexual releases by more than half. This was a big change but over
time had some wonderful effects on his personality. This woman knew the male anatomy in great detail and said she had been studying male sexual response for many years. Over time I became bolder with my boyfriend and finally decided to take the plunge and invite my friend over to observe us in person. As a nurse, I'd guess she he had probably seen hundreds of nude males of all ages, and she was totally casual about seeing my boyfriend's body, although he of course was supremely embarrassed. After he was out of his clothes, for fun she even weighed him and measured his height like we were in a doctor's office, just to lighten the mood. She showed me a couple of techniques that would prevent him from slipping over into the contractions that begin the male orgasm, while still keeping him fully aroused. These became part of our regular routine. Rika, overall now I am very happy with where we are in this lifestyle, and can't thank her or you enough. |
| Name: | Susan's pet |
| E-mail address: | susans_pet@myway.com |
| Comments: | Ms Rika,
I have read your writings since I happened to find them about a year or so ago. I love women, I love my wife. In addition, I have respect for you as a caring dominant person. Your writing has resonated with my needs completely, and my wife knows it. Thank you for the effort that you spend to make this a better world. |
| Name: | Darryl |
| E-mail address: | darryl32@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Thank you for a very enlightening and though provoking website. I must say that your distinction between "true submission" and "phony submission" rather humbled me. My wife recently agreed to accept my desire to be submissive to her. However, I really crave spankings, which she is not very enthusiastic about giving. In other words, my idea of "submitting" to her was based on my own masturbation fantasies.
But my longing to submit is true. Therefore, I have written a letter to my wife apologizing for my selfishness and suggesting that she might find this website useful. If she consults this site and applies the ideas she finds here, I fear I may get a lot less of the kind of "discipline" I crave. But it will perhaps put our experiment in the D/s lifestyle on a clearer and more sustainable footing. Well, I'd better get going. I'm going to prepare a nice dinner for my wife, and I also want to study a book I bought about how to give a good massage. |
| Name: | polo |
| E-mail address: | polo72@hotmail.co.il |
| Comments: | Great site!!! |
| Name: | SwissJ |
| E-mail address: | J.keuscher @comcast.net |
| Comments: | Dearest Ms. Rifka,
My deepest gratittude for the encouragment and guidance offered to males who have realized their approprate role in relationships betweenthe sexes. I must admit to my wndering why some women (and almost all men) seem to think that this is an aberrant way of relating, as it seems that most of nature confirms that this is a legitimate and appropriate way for males and females to iteract. Pardon me for being so presumptuous as to offer an opinion on the matter. My question to you resolves around the issue of the emtiomal state or attiude that prevails during intimate physical contact between the genders, and why it must apparently involve a "dominant" and a "submssive' in an arbitraarily imposed relationshi between the two. As a natural, bisexual submissive (in both heterosexul and homosexual relationshios) I find myself wondering why there must be an "imposed" or even "punitive" aspect to the female-male interaction, and why this cannot be a a mutualy agreeeable, or even negotiated set of circumstances. Do you see a reason why this must be so? As always, I defer to your judgement inthese matters in these matter, as I have to those of my own partner, who agreed to let me send thsi enquiry. -jeff k. |
| Name: | Angelisa |
| Comments: | Rika, your site has been a wonderful find for my boyfriend and I. I have been in control of his sex life for nearly two years now, and your ideas and comments have really added to our relationship. Just to pick out one point, as you suggest, he regularly consumes his own semen now on those days when I allow him to come -- this is a big change for him but something that has been very good. One of my favorite sights actually is looking into my boyfriend's eyes while he stands completely nude before me, his own ejaculate dripping down his chin and around his mouth. It's the sweetest thing. I let him reach orgasm every four to six weeks on average, which seems to work out well for both of us. We have regular teasing sessions that keep him energetic and aroused, about two or three times a week. Physically he is fine and the arousal and denial only seems to add to our relationship. Sometimes during a session I will break out my dildo and we'll compare it to his erect penis, size and shape. He is smaller but not by a lot, and I've offered to let him inside me the minute he can get himself larger than my plaything. He's tried on several occasions, but never quite makes it, although I've enjoyed watching him try. At the point when he gives up, I open my legs and get myself off while he watches. Afterwards I let him touch and smell the wet toy and he kisses it clean.
A few weeks ago I had some concern that his weeks of denial could possibly impact his health, so I talked to my physician to see about getting his prostate checked -- he just puts it off if I leave it to him. I explained the nature of our relationship, and my doctor understood and was fine in having him come in -- she's younger and seemed very at ease with our lifestyle. I sat while she got him up on the table and examined him, and everything turned out to be fine. I recently had him tattooed with my initials, the first tattoo he's ever had. I told him it would be on his bottom, but I let him decide which cheek would get the tattoo. I have a girlfriend in the business and she did a beautiful job. After she finished we talked about a second one possibly near his perineum or on his ball sac, and but she didn't have her shaving gear handy, so we decided to wait for another day. Rika, thanks again for your wonderful site. |
| Name: | Peter |
| E-mail address: | free_union@yahoo.com |
| Comments: | Dear Rika,
An amazing, wonderfully thoughtful site re TRUE D/s. One question, re the poer of irony -- are your slaves 'reprogrammed' to enjoy & be proud of theri post-climax 'meal'? -- it seems to me that changing their consciousness would be an even more powerful form of humiliation than 'mere' humiliation. [i have been doing some auto-training in this area] sincerely |
| Name: | Stella |
| E-mail address: | stellinastar@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | I fear that I will never meet the submissive man I seek. As a single, black woman in my 30s I think I'm a little late to the game, and don't know where to go to meet men who truly understand Femdom and crave a loving, respectful (and HOT) Female Led Relationship. I live in San Francisco, so you'd think it might be easier, but it's not. Craigslist, while helpful for one night stands is not really the forum for meeting someone interested in a real relationship. Woe is me!
I've really enjoyed your site, and appreciate your insights. Thank you! |
| Name: | Eric |
| Comments: | Rika, I really enjoy your site. I'm a 28-year-old male and
have always been interested in dominance and submission. I have been seeing my girlfriend now for eight months and she has now taken full control of my sex life. As a sign of devotion, she asked me to write to you and describe my first ever submissive encounter. I hope you don't mind... my first real encounter with this was in college. My girlfriend at the time had a fantasy about watching another girl get me off, in a dominant way. She would bring this up for months, but it was just an idle fantasy until one weekend she asked me if I'd be willing to actually go through with it with one of her girlfriends. At first I put her off but finally succumbed to the pressure, and also I'll admit my own curiousity. But I was very very nervous leading up to the event. My girlfriend and I planned out in detail the way the evening would go. When the evening finally came, the part I found hardest was finally standing in front of her girlfriend and being asked to strip down to nothing but a t-shirt, as they both watched. My girlfriend told me later that she absolutely loved watching me pull down my jeans and then finally my underwear, as her friend observed. I remember at that point I was shaking in the candlelight (my girlfriend had placed a few candles around her dorm room). When my pants were down, her girlfriend said softly "Very nice" and put a hand on my thigh, trying to get me to relax a bit. Then she quietly but assertively took my penis and balls in her hands and very quickly had me worked up to a full erection. "And you thought you wouldn't be able to get hard for Diane," my girlfriend reminded me, smiling. Part of our fantasy was to have me restrained, so at that point my girlfriend gently pulled my hands behind my back and tied my wrists together with a silk scarf. Diane then spent the next 15 minutes or so stroking me, teasing my nipples, and occasionally reaching back to touch my anus. When she decided it was time, she told me to open my legs and squat a bit so that she could get a full grip on my scrotum, and then she began rapidly stroking me with her other hand through to orgasm. It happened so fast I hardly had time to think about it, which was probably a good thing, since I barely knew this girl. I remember I came in these huge ropey spurts as the girls smiled and encouraged me on. When it was over I felt violated and turned on at the same time by the whole scenario. We never did this again but occasionally I would see Diane around and she would say hello. I still remember the whole thing so vividly. I apologize for taking up so much space in your Dreambook, Rika. My girlfriend wants me to join your Forum soon. |
| Name: | Mistress Vicki |
| E-mail address: | mistress.vicki@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | Most wonderful. All of your articles are wonderful.
With My Love Mistress Vicki |
| Name: | sissy tricia |
| E-mail address: | triciatv@hotmail.com |
| Comments: | WOW, what a wonderful birthday for Your slave. I read it with great desire and interest. this sissy would love to share this with its Wife/Owner. Thank You Mistress Rika for sharing
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| Name: | Phil |
| E-mail address: | hersrvnt@yahoo.com |
| Homepage URL: | http://www.mrjjones.com |
| Comments: | *TURNS PALE, GETS HARD, STAYS HARD* What can I say?? After all the grief I've had from certain unnamed BDSM groups, finally, someone who relates teasing and denial as the true, so effective submission tool it is. It seems that sometimes even some D/s communities shun it as a "sex act, not D/s" As having been a T&D sub for some time, I can say the submission, desire, the ache, the trauma and the subspace can all be attained and maintained in T&D when properly executed. And your site offers excellent material for anyone who wants to try it, or even someone who has some experience. * Your whole site is fantastic! I believe (I'll look again) I've read every page! Thank you for sharing your insights! Outstanding! Have been, and will be referring you to others! |
| Name: | Andrea |
| Comments: | I really like your site. I was intrigued by Mae's letter about her boyfriend. I've had a dominant relationship with my guy for four years, and have also had this fantasy about him being brought off by someone I know he's definitely *not* attracted to. I've managed to arrange this three times, and it's been great each time. He has protested but of course does not have a choice. Very humbling for him! The last time I loved watching his face contort as a 59-year-old woman (he's 26) brought him to climax with her very experienced hands. |